But we're rarely pure victims and we're all capable of rudeness, insensitivity and cruelty. So it's time to 'fess up to the cruel things you've said.
To my shame, I once interrupted a philosophy student who'd been spouting inanely in the pub for hours with the words 'This isn't The Secret History, you aren't the intellectual elite, you scraped an E at A-level and we've heard enough'. It was cruel and pretty hypocritical given that I spent my undergraduate years in the pub, droning on about philosophy, politics and critical theory.
Obviously this isn't the only rude thing I've said to people - there've been too many to remember. If you've been on the receiving end, do remind me. I do recommend The Secret History though.